Flowers and Funerals

Regardless of age a childs death, whatever the circumstances, is one the hardest events any parent could ever have to endure.  Grief of this nature for bereaved parents
can take long periods of time, will feel extremely painful and make no sense at all.

The initial grief and pain felt by bereaved parents in the first days and months is completely overwhelming, and these uncontrollable emotions, can in some cases even last
for years.  All our thoughts and feeling can be consumed by constantly thinking of our childs death.  Happy memories of our children before death make us feel sad and
bring us pain.

Losing ones child changes your life and turns your world upside down and you never really get over it, however, in time we must learn to live in this different world.  We are
in fact forced to live in what seems to be an impossible situation and somehow build or find a new life that does not include the lost child. 

A very important aspect which bereaved parents need to understand, is that many of the terrible feelings they will go through are perfectly normal and natural, when a child
life is suddenly ended.  Although it will seem impossible to comprehend, these intense feelings of grief, will in time, not feel so consuming. 

You will never for get your child. You must allow your heart and soul as much time as is neccessary to grieve.  You cannot speed up this process, but evenually you will be
able to smile and find happiness again.

Many feeling that bereaved parents may feel:
     Depression
     feeling empty
     lost
     anxiety
     denial
     wondering why me or us?
     profound sadness
     uncrontrollable crying or crying at unexpected times
     lack of concentration
     forgetfullness
     guilt
     constantly feeling tired
     anger
     problems getting sleep or sleeping too often to try and escape the pain
     anger towards your child for not being with you now
     feeling guilty if you smile or don’t think about your child
     feeling thing are getting slightly easier then quickly slipping back
     feeling other family members or friends are not greiving like you